Tuesday, May 15, 2012

How to be a mommy??

So, it was mothers day a few days ago and it really got me thinking.  How do most people learn to be the mommies that they want to be? I would think usually by watching and learning from their own mommies.  The problem with me is that I never really had a mommy growing up.  My family is quite crazy and I never had that role model.  I think it is interesting that all I have ever wanted was to be a mommy. When I was little I actually put my baby dolls under my shirt, so I could be "pregnant"! LOL   Maybe since I wanted a mommy so badly at that point, as I am sure all little girls do,  I craved being the perfect little mommy myself.  The problem is now that I am all grown up and have REAL kids and not baby dolls anymore, and my kids have REAL problems and REAL attitudes.  I have a hard time figuring out how to deal with motherhood sometimes,  I have always wanted to be the perfect mommy and the days when my kids are driving me crazy and stomping on my last nerve I find myself yelling like a crazy person, and that is not the mommy I wanted to be. It makes me feel so guilty and horrible.  All I can do is strive to be a better mommy that I really do want to be. But my question is, when you have had NO role models (except for June Cleaver mommies on TV) then what do you do, how do figure this mommy thing out.  That is my struggle, I want it, but don't know how to achieve it.  Maybe some of these real life super mommies need to write a how to manual???


  1. My adopted parents were crazy strict and controlled everything we did. If it wasn't "Christian" or "Godly", we had to stay away from it. I knew I didn't want to be controlling. I want to let my daughter just be what she wanted. I think there is no way to know exactly what kind of parent you want to be. I think you end up doing whatever comes naturally.
    Following from CM, by the way :)

  2. How many moms do you know that you can go to for advice? My mother was pretty absent as I was growing up so I everything was pretty much trial and error for me when my daughter was born..
    But she is 15 now and I think I have done a pretty OK job so far.. Why not try to meet other moms? Maybe start a weekly or monthly 'mom's night out' or something..