Friday, December 6, 2013

Don't sweat the small stuff....but to me nothing is small

 I am sitting here watching my kids play and be loud and well.....just be kids and I am full of anxiety.  I have always wanted a big family, lots of babies, but I feel like I am failing at this.  I have such a hard time just sitting and enjoying my kids, it seems like they drive me crazy MOST of the time.  I want so badly to be a good, fun mom that just lets everything roll off, but I cant and I find myself stressed, screaming, and having anxiety attacks.  Parenting does not come easy for me and never has.  I did not grow up with good parents that taught me so most of the "normal" parenting that I have seen has been in bits at friends houses and on TV.  I know that sounds nuts but its kinda hard to learn to be a parent when you haven't really had any and watching a 30 minute episode of Roseanne just doesn't cut it.  


  1. Here's the deal. Decide what kind of adult you want to turn loose on the world and then work backwards. Everything you do should keep that future adult in mind. Want that adult to be kind? Stress kindness. Want that adult to be a believer? Stress God. Want that adult to be sophisticated and urbane? Stress that.

    It might help to watch family shows from the 50s and early 60s. They actually tried to teach good parenting habits.

  2. Thanks for sharing your honest thoughts, feelings, and vulnerability. A good book: How to Make Your Children Mind Without Losing Yours. Under $7 for the Kindle/e-edition @ Amazon. Super Nanny is a good show re: parenting with little ones. Who ARE the role models in your life? Model them, talk with them, ask their advice. Don't have any great role models? Find some - in your community, church, even online. There is no "perfect" but when you feel you are doing your best, you are doing your job. :)